When discussing the topic of self-harm, many people may default to the assumption that those who engage in self-harming behaviors are seeking attention. This misconception can lead to judgment and stigmatization, further deepening the wounds of those who are struggling. In this article, we will examine what self-harm is and why it is crucial to recognize the complexities behind this behavior.

Self-harm, or self-injury, involves intentionally hurting oneself as a way of coping with emotional distress. It can take various forms including cutting, burning, or bruising oneself. Individuals who self-harm often experience a temporary sense of relief from their emotional pain, but these actions can have long-lasting negative consequences for their mental health.

The assumption that self-harm is solely attention-seeking is not only harmful but also misguided. Although in some cases individuals may display their self-inflicted injuries as a cry for help, it is incorrect to label this behavior as attention-seeking in a pejorative sense.

To say that those struggling with self-injury are merely “seeking attention” invalidates their very real struggles, emotions, and pain. This viewpoint perpetuates an idea that they are simply manipulating others for their own benefit rather than genuinely experiencing difficulties in coping with life’s challenges.

Even when symptoms of self-harm are intentionally showcased or displayed, it must be seen as a plea for help rather than an attempt to manipulate or influence others. After all, seeking help when in distress is a natural aspect of being human.

If someone that you know is engaging in self-harming behaviors and appears to be reaching out for help or support by showing their injuries, resist the urge to blame them or accuse them of attention-seeking. Instead, approach them with empathy and seek to understand their reasons for self-injury.

In conclusion, labeling individuals who engage in self-harm as attention-seekers is harmful and invalidating. Rather than judging and dismissing their actions, it is crucial to approach these situations with compassion and understanding. Recognizing self-harm as a cry for help rather than manipulation can enable us to provide support and encourage individuals to seek appropriate help and resources.

With open conversations about the distress you can help reduce it. However, beware not to try treating the person if you don’t have the appropriate training but to encourage them to seek professional help. It is a very complicated and fragile mental state and it’s easy to cause unintentional harm, to them and to yourself.