Staying with Multiple Truths
Therapy is often described as a journey toward clarity.But what if clarity doesn’t mean choosing one truth — what if it means holding more than one at once? We think things like: “I love them, but I’m angry.”“I’m proud, but I feel like a fraud.”“I want to get better, but I’m terrified to lose who […]
When Clients Say “I Don’t Know” – And They Mean It
We’ve all heard it.The small shrug. The blank pause.“I don’t know.” And maybe sometimes it really is avoidance. But more often, it’s something softer — a nervous system trying to stay safe. When someone says “I don’t know,” it can mean: “I don’t know” isn’t a wall. It’s a pause. A moment between knowing and […]
Meeting My Humor Part
What happens when I stop laughing at my pain—and start listening to the part of me that laughs? This week, I pulled the Humor card from Parts in Me and decided to ask it a few questions—just to see what it might say back. Because humor has always been here with me.It sneaks in during […]
The Role of Humor in Therapy: How to Use It Without Losing Connection
Humor has always found its way into therapy rooms. Sometimes it’s a bridge, sometimes a shield, sometimes a lifeline. The question isn’t whether humor belongs—it does. The question is how to use it in ways that deepen the work, rather than distract from it. As someone who has both sat in the client’s chair and […]
Healing Across Borders: The Story Behind Our Collaboration with EMDR4PEACE
At OK2Feel, everything we create grows out of lived experience, the raw, messy, beautiful work of being human. As someone who lives with anxiety, chronic pain, and disability, I know what it means to feel broken by the world and still reach toward healing. That’s why our recent collaboration with EMDR4PEACE feels so personal. EMDR4PEACE […]
The Space Between Sessions: Helping Clients Hold Emotional Threads
Some of the most meaningful parts of therapy unfold after the session ends—during the drive home, in a moment of silence three days later, or when a familiar trigger lands a little differently than before. But the space between sessions can also feel blank, disjointed, or too much to hold alone. Here are 12 ways […]
What Clients Say vs. What They Mean (And What Might Help Us Ask)
Decoding emotionally ambiguous phrases and how to meet them with care and clarity.
What Emotional Growth Really Looks Like (And How to Support It in Therapy)
Emotional growth doesn’t always announce itself. It’s not always dramatic. Sometimes, it’s quiet—like a shift in posture, a deeper breath, or a moment of eye contact that never would’ve happened in session three. Like nature in early spring, growth often begins invisibly, beneath the surface. As therapists, we’re trained to notice change. But clients often […]
When Clients Intellectualize Their Feelings: 10 Ways to Gently Shift Toward Emotional Processing
Some clients explain their emotions instead of feeling them—staying in their heads as a way to stay safe. While insight has its place, healing happens when emotions are experienced, not just analyzed. Here are 10 practical, in-session strategies to gently guide clients back to feeling: 1. Call Attention to the Pattern—With Curiosity, Not Judgment Instead […]
How to Get Clients to Open Up: 8 Practical Strategies
One of the biggest challenges in therapy isn’t just what to say—it’s how to create a space where clients feel safe enough to share. For many, talking about emotions is unfamiliar, intimidating, or overwhelming. Whether you’re a therapist, coach, or facilitator, helping people access and express their emotions is a key part of the work. […]